For some women, the way we work isn’t quite working. In reality ‘having it all,’ as we have come to know it, is utterly exhausting. We have prided ourselves in our capacity to do it all – raise a family, build a thriving career, maintain relationships, and stay on top of everything. The reality is that something always gets sacrificed. It’s neither work nor the children, but rather our energy that takes the brunt. For most of us, ‘having it all’ isn’t a philosophical debate because the majority of women who choose to have a family, most certainly want to or need to work at the same time. We should be asking another question entirely: how can we possibly do it differently?
It’s not necessarily the combination of work commitments and family responsibilities that depletes us; it may be lack of flexibility in our work environment, the huge work load and a myriad of other issues. But mostly it’s the self-imposed, unrealistic standards that we set for ourselves that get in the way of achieving peace of mind. Most of us do a great job at work and are devoted mothers at the same time. What takes a real beating in doing it all is our own mental and physical wellbeing.
Here are five super helpful tips to stay on top of it all:
Glibly repeating, “you can have it all” is simply airbrushing reality. It’s a falsehood to think that it’s simply a function of a woman’s determination. There are still trails to blaze, ceilings to break and gender inequities to correct. But if ‘having it all’ means a little more compromise and a little less perfection, a little more flexibility and a little less rigidity, a little more courage and a little less fear, then yes, it may indeed be possible. Just remember to take care of your own health, too!