For hot flashes and menopausal symptoms, it has been shown that choosing foods rich in phytoestrogens may help. These include legumes (particularly organic soybeans - tofu), flaxseed like Kim mentioned, other beans (lima, split peas), and alfalfa sprouts. Also, the herbs black cohosh, chasteberry, ginseng and red clover have also been reported as effective in menopause, but you should have the advice of an herbalist or naturopathic doctor before you add this to your diet. For restless leg syndrome, avoid coffee and other caffeine sources as well as alcohol. You may want to get your iron levels checked and if low, supplement with iron. It has also been shown that lavender essential oils help you relax and placing them by your pillow may reduce the RLS activity. Calcium and magnesium rich foods (or supplements) will help relax your muscles at night.